Before you go any further, get yourself off to the side for some quiet time and do some soul searching.  Ask yourself if you’re REALLY ready to retire.  Be sure it’s the right time and for the right reasons.  I call this a “location” check.  Where are you with this?

Are you at peace, looking forward to the next chapter of your life, hopeful and a little excited?  Or are you suffering, edgy and fearful?

If you’re anywhere but peaceful and hopeful, do whatever you have to do to change “locations”, get to that place of peace.  Talk to someone you can trust…..a mentor, a good friend, a counselor or a transition coach.

The Fleet and Family Support Centers offer trained counselors and workshops in areas of stress, anger management, transitions, etc. for the whole family.  If you’re a long way off from peace, maybe get with a therapist for a short time to work through some deeper issues.

Now’s the time, early in the process, to get clear on what your military career has been, what it has meant to you and where it has brought you.

You may find that you aren’t ready to leave yet!  There are many good reasons to stay in the service.  It’s okay to decide to stay in at this point.  Better now than later.

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Identify the ‘noise’ in your life.  All the things you leave undone, ignore or tolerate, actually drain your energy and sap your creativity.  Ignoring them doesn’t make them go away.  And tolerating or accepting them doesn’t lessen the negative impact they have on you.

Make a list of everything you can think of that would make you feel better if it were taken care of or dealt with permanently.  Organize your list into 4 major categories:

1. Physical Environment (examples: personal papers filed neatly, plants being fed and watered, clothes all ironed, adequate lighting, car in good repair, appliances working),
2. Relationships (examples: let go of old relationships, caught up with letters and phone calls, nothing ‘unsaid’ in current relationship, always tell the truth, spoken to parents recently),
3. Financial (examples: pay bills in-full and on-time, no credit card debt, save 10% of income, live within your means, up-to-date will and insurance), and
4. Health/Well-Being (examples: exercise regularly, don’t smoke, make healthy food choices, meditate daily, take vacations, think positively).

Make this list as long as you like.  Once you have your list, commit to deal permanently with at least one item per week.  As you quiet the ‘noise’ your life, you’ll have more natural energy and vitality.

Create some space for your new life to grow and take shape in.  Don’t suffer with this…. make a game of it and have FUN!

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Contact your Command Career Counselor or the nearest Fleet and Family Support Center and schedule yourself and your spouse for the Transition Assistance Program (TAP) seminar.  This is a mandatory seminar per OPNAVINST 1900.1D.

They normally have several speakers over a few days giving out lots of advice and providing checklists on what you must/ should do prior to/ immediately after leaving the service.  Each base provides slightly different material and information.  Be sure to get hard copies of everything they offer in class.

This seminar is best attended 2 years prior to leaving and again within 6 months of leaving, if possible.  This is the place to ask questions about what the latest government requirements and benefits are, get copies of any forms you may need, gather phone numbers for your primary points of contact in the Personnel Office and do a little networking.

Don’t become overwhelmed (or under-whelmed) by the information they’ll give you during this seminar.  Because you’re using this checklist, you are already miles ahead of everyone else in organizing your retirement.

Check out TAP Facilitators for more military transition resources.

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Create your Life Vision.  This powerful exercise will ground you in your goals and what you truly want for your future.  After several years in a military mindset, it can become difficult to see yourself doing anything else.  This will help you stretch your “imagination muscles” and prepare you for a more flexible lifestyle.

Using the following questions as a guideline, picture vividly in your imagination how you would like your future to be.  Don’t analyze what you see.  Judging how reasonable or possible it is or how you could earn a living at it will only get in the way of your creativity.  Don’t think about timelines, 3/ 5/ 10 year goals.

Give yourself permission to create your perfect future with childlike curiosity, fun and imagination.  Please be sure this future is what you want, not what you think it should be or ought to be or needs to be.  And certainly not what you think will please everyone else.  This is just for you.

Don’t hurry this; let it come easily and naturally to you. When you have a clear picture, open your eyes and write down everything you imagined.  It’s best to put this on a computer so you can easily change it and add to it during the next several months.  Make it a habit to go over it and update it every week.  It’s THAT important to your transition!

• What do you look like?
• How do you feel? (Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually)
• What are your personality characteristics?  How do you act?
• What characteristics do the people around you have?
• What interests do the people in your life have?  (Similar to yours or different)
• How do you feel when you are with the people in your life?
• Where are you living?  (Geographic description or specific location)
• What style of house do you live in?  (Describe it from roof line to door knobs)
• How is your home furnished?  (Everything from bath towels to baseboards)
• What things do you own or have unlimited use of?  (Transportation, equipment, small and large, this is all your ‘stuff’)
• How do you feel when you are in your home?
• What type of work do you spend most of your time doing?  (Physical, mental)
• Which skills are you using regularly?
• Where are you when you’re working?  (Inside, outside, small, large, busy, quiet)
• How many hours a day, days per week, and weeks per year do you work?
• What type of products or materials are you working with?
• What are you creating?  (Tangible, intangible, think little, think big)
• What subjects are you learning about?
• What are you talking about all day?
• How many people do you interact with daily when you’re working?
• How do you feel when you’re working?
• What level of responsibility do you have?  Why is this important to you?
• What are your day-to-day rhythms?
• How do you spend your leisure time?
• Where do you go for vacation?
• How often do you take vacations?  How long do they last?
• How much income do make monthly and annually?
• What are the sources of your income?

Go over each part of this exercise.  What mini-steps could you start taking today to live your vision?  What changes are you willing to make now that will move you closer to your vision?

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